In ‘Four Hands on One Belly’ tonight you can see the story of Nica. 19-year-old Nica is expecting her first child and is almost alone: the father of thechild does not want to know anything about it and she no longer has contactwith her mother. Singer Tabitha (30) may assist her, but will she succeed inbreaking down Nica’s wall?
“I’ve seen women give birth in taxis in Africa, so if they can do it, I> should be able to too.”
Nica’s parents divorced a year ago and she has not had any contact with hermother since then. She lives with her sister with her father, who happilysupports her pregnancy 100 percent. She doesn’t have to expect anything fromthe father of her upcoming child, she explains. “His parents were not happywith it. They don’t want the baby, they don’t believe it is his. Well,completely fine,” she says expressionless for the camera.
As for her delivery, Nica is sober about it. She is going to give birth athome. “I don’t care much for hospitals. If I can do it at home, I prefer to doit at home. I always think everything will be fine, so I don’t really need ahospital. I’ve seen women give birth in taxis in Africa, so If they can do it,I should be able to.” Tabitha explains that she started her first pregnancyvery differently. “I read really well before I gave birth.”
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When Tabitha asks her about her mother’s absence during this important period,she shrugs. “It has actually given me a lot of peace that I no longer speak toher. But of course you always miss someone.” Tabitha recognizes a lot ofherself in Nica. “She finds it difficult to go into depth. Think that thethings that still hurt her a lot, that she consciously stays away from that. Iused to have that wall around her too.”
When asked if she has taken a pregnancy course, Nica responds negatively. “No,a course is not for me. Can really be stolen from me. I think that once I givebirth that I panic and that I forget everything.” Tabitha explains to her thatit is precisely for this reason that it is important to make a birth plan and,miraculously, she seems to be open to a birthing course after this. Not onlythat, she even meets with a lactation consultant to learn more aboutbreastfeeding. In retrospect, she is glad she listened to Tabitha. “It hasgiven me more confidence, I have really benefited from this.”
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Nica eventually has to ditch her plans for a home birth. She is in so muchpain that she wants pain medication and still goes to the hospital. Oncethere, it just doesn’t get along with the opening and everything goesdifferently than she had planned. Viewers witness Nica throw up several timesand even cry for a Caesarean section. “I really can’t anymore!” she exclaims.Fortunately, Nica doesn’t have to go under the knife in the end and she givesbirth to a healthy boy named Mica.
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When Tabitha visits her later, she appears to have undergone a realtransformation. She explains that she has reconnected with her mother and isalso open to taking Tabitha to a boxing class, where she talks candidly abouther difficult childhood. Tabitha is overjoyed: “You can be proud of yourselfthat you are not running away. Today was a special day. It is a day when shehas broken through something. The unconscious has become more conscious”, sheconcludes.
Viewers appear to sympathize with Nica’s violent birth: