In ‘Four Hands on One Belly’ tonight you can see the story of Nica. 19-year-old Nica is expecting her first child and is almost alone: the father of the child does not want to know anything about it and she no longer has contact with her mother. Singer Tabitha (30) may assist her, but will she succeed in breaking down Nica’s wall?
“I’ve seen women give birth in taxis in Africa, so if they can do it, I should be able to too.”
Nica’s parents divorced a year ago and she has not had any contact with her mother since then. She lives with her sister with her father, who happily supports her pregnancy 100 percent. She doesn’t have to expect anything from the father of her upcoming child, she explains. “His parents were not happy with it. They don’t want the baby, they don’t believe it is his. Well, completely fine,” she says expressionless for the camera.
As for her delivery, Nica is sober about it. She is going to give birth at home. “I don’t care much for hospitals. If I can do it at home, I prefer to do it at home. I always think everything will be fine, so I don’t really need a hospital. I’ve seen women give birth in taxis in Africa, so If they can do it, I should be able to.” Tabitha explains that she started her first pregnancy very differently. “I read really well before I gave birth.”
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When Tabitha asks her about her mother’s absence during this important period, she shrugs. “It has actually given me a lot of peace that I no longer speak to her. But of course you always miss someone.” Tabitha recognizes a lot of herself in Nica. “She finds it difficult to go into depth. Think that the things that still hurt her a lot, that she consciously stays away from that. I used to have that wall around her too.”
When asked if she has taken a pregnancy course, Nica responds negatively. “No, a course is not for me. Can really be stolen from me. I think that once I give birth that I panic and that I forget everything.” Tabitha explains to her that it is precisely for this reason that it is important to make a birth plan and, miraculously, she seems to be open to a birthing course after this. Not only that, she even meets with a lactation consultant to learn more about breastfeeding. In retrospect, she is glad she listened to Tabitha. “It has given me more confidence, I have really benefited from this.”
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Nica eventually has to ditch her plans for a home birth. She is in so much pain that she wants pain medication and still goes to the hospital. Once there, it just doesn’t get along with the opening and everything goes differently than she had planned. Viewers witness Nica throw up several times and even cry for a Caesarean section. “I really can’t anymore!” she exclaims. Fortunately, Nica doesn’t have to go under the knife in the end and she gives birth to a healthy boy named Mica.
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When Tabitha visits her later, she appears to have undergone a real transformation. She explains that she has reconnected with her mother and is also open to taking Tabitha to a boxing class, where she talks candidly about her difficult childhood. Tabitha is overjoyed: “You can be proud of yourself that you are not running away. Today was a special day. It is a day when she has broken through something. The unconscious has become more conscious”, she concludes.
Viewers appear to sympathize with Nica’s violent birth:
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